In this article, I will explain open vs. closed adoption. If you are pregnant and thinking about adoption for your baby, it’s likely that you have a hundred different emotions and just as many questions. You might be wondering, “open vs closed adoption – what is the difference and which might be right for me”?
There are some important differences between open and closed adoptions that you should be clear on before you make any kind of decision. Therefore, let’s jump into it and see if I can answer your questions.
Firstly, in an open adoption, the birth mother chooses the adoptive parents. The birth family knows at least basic information about adoptive parents and vice versa. The amount of contact they have is up to the birth mother. This contact can include phone calls, sharing photos, and in-person visits. Every open adoption relationship looks different.
Firstly, the birth mother can watch her child grow and thrive and not wonder how her child is doing. As a result, the birth parent’s current and future children have the opportunity to connect with the adopted child. Moreover, she can feel confident that she won’t have unwanted contact with the adoptive family and the adopted child.
On the one hand, open adoption allows parents to share a unique bond with the woman who made them a family. They will have access to ongoing social and medical information about their adopted children. Above all, adoptive parents will have more information to share with their adopted child about the biological family.
Firstly, in a closed adoption, a woman relinquishes her child to an adoption agency. Next, the agency chooses a family who will adopt the child. As a result, there is no contact between the biological parents and the adoptive parents. They don’t know each other’s identities. However, the birth mother may only see the baby in the hospital, if she wishes.
The mother does not choose who will raise her child. Therefore, there is no contact between the mother and the adoptive parents. There is not contact between the birth mother and the child. Above all, you can’t switch a closed adoption to an open adoption. Therefore, closed adoptions are less common.
The birth mother will not see her child. Moreover, the adoptive parents may not tell the child she is adopted. There will be no contact between the child and the biological family. As a result, the birth mother’s future children will likely never have contact with the adopted child.
They cannot share social or medical information with biological family members. As a result, their adopted child may have questions about the biological family that they are unable to answer. Finally, they may not get important information that could be helpful in raising their adopted child.
So after understanding open vs closed adoption, here is a summary of the main differences:
A closed adoption might be something to consider, if you are certain you don’t want the child to know who you are. On the other hand, an open adoption might be worth considering if you are uncertain and want flexibility in the future.
Many more women have regrets about closed adoptions. Studies show that adoptees benefit from knowing at least basic information about their biological family.
If you’d like to know more about open vs closed adoption just let me know! Or read about my adoption story.